tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post245183932436908208..comments2023-12-03T20:14:00.908-06:00Comments on Ima on (and off) the Bima: Real-Life Jewish Parenting: Do They Like Me? Wrapped Emotions #4Phyllis Sommerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16654761832717723000noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-76259387820933226632007-10-02T16:25:00.000-05:002007-10-02T16:25:00.000-05:00Back from my crazy few days and happy to come reco...Back from my crazy few days and happy to come reconnect with you here.<BR/>This post was provocative and engaging. It is hard when people don't like us, hard to let them be who they are and not step in and try to control it, meaning them. <BR/>Letting go sometimes comes in pieces.<BR/>Your art is moving. <BR/>Thank-you for sharing.bellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04165771647378109845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-85172452786973826062007-10-02T16:09:00.000-05:002007-10-02T16:09:00.000-05:00I know how hard it was for you to write out the wo...I know how hard it was for you to write out the words "Someone doesn't like me." I want everyone to like me, too. <BR/>This was a very brave and beautiful post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-83808181454031006712007-10-02T11:09:00.000-05:002007-10-02T11:09:00.000-05:00Your journal pages are beautiful. Thank you for s...Your journal pages are beautiful. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-16392723387913579922007-10-01T20:50:00.000-05:002007-10-01T20:50:00.000-05:00What a moving post. And even if one of your congr...What a moving post. And even if one of your congregants read this, I hope it inspires them to send you a note or give you a hug. I believe to serve as you do is the highest calling there is. Thank you for serving and sharing here so sacrificially.Julie Arduinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08658926809120105714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-74586469556533593112007-10-01T12:38:00.000-05:002007-10-01T12:38:00.000-05:00What a powerful post. It is such a big fear... the...What a powerful post. It is such a big fear... the fear of not being liked. Not everyone will like us in life. It is a fact, but a hard one to accept. I am glad you have decided to accept the loss of this friend who has decided not to like you. Hopefully it will get easier.<BR/><BR/>Kim @ TheBitterBallAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00781164870994615088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-13191124440845617172007-09-30T20:02:00.000-05:002007-09-30T20:02:00.000-05:00I can really identify with the need to be liked, e...I can really identify with the need to be liked, especially for doing what is right. I dealt with some harsh blows as a young adult of trusting others to do what is right, instead of what was right for THEM, and was sorely hurt. Now, I guess, I don't completely trust that people won't be self absorbed in their decisions. I expect less, but not of myself. I think if you know what you did is right, and someone dislikes you for that, you have to accept that sometimes life is not fair...people are not fair. Good for you in letting it go.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07464318343985100834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-32785932197120616722007-09-30T19:32:00.000-05:002007-09-30T19:32:00.000-05:00Phyllis - I am just overwhelmed by your honesty i...Phyllis - I am just overwhelmed by your honesty in this post. I know that we don't share the same faith, but I hold such a deep respect for what you believe. <BR/><BR/>I understand too, what a challenging place you are in: To say what is right and true, even if it is not popular and then struggle to mesh that with the human desire of being understood and appreciated as an individual... so very difficult! <BR/><BR/>My father-in-law is a minister and I have watched him struggle prayerfully over this very same issue. And, I often feel a similar struggle within myself, as does probably just about anyone who takes a stand for what is right, and true, and just and then feels the sting of criticism for their efforts.<BR/><BR/>And as for your fear of not being liked... From where I sit, there is much to like!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-6780178883677171412007-09-30T16:29:00.000-05:002007-09-30T16:29:00.000-05:00I lost a twenty year friendship through circumstan...I lost a twenty year friendship through circumstances somewhat beyond my control about five years ago. It wasn't pleasant but when you finally come to terms with a situation like that, your understanding of yourself grows by leaps and bounds. I've learned to muddle through life with the knowlegde that this person doesn't (apparently) think very highly of me. Also, I've learned to trust that everything will work itself out for the best in the end. (Still waiting, though.)<BR/>So, here's some empathy. Go be human and wallow in it for a couple of minutes. Oh, and chocolate helps. Really.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-3530326893655469662007-09-30T15:54:00.000-05:002007-09-30T15:54:00.000-05:00how beautiful, great art work.and if it matters, n...how beautiful, great art work.<BR/><BR/>and if it matters, not that i know you, i like you. i admire you, i imagine with your job you spend a lot of time helping other people and perhaps people don't realize you need help too.<BR/><BR/>im sure your friend, oneday will realize the reasons you acted as you did, and even if she doesn't God will provide someone to take her place. <BR/><BR/>God bless you.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02198905897967169674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-58068730863107660612007-09-30T07:57:00.000-05:002007-09-30T07:57:00.000-05:00I think most of us have this same struggle. I lear...I think most of us have this same struggle. I learned something about Trust a while back, because I'm somewhat of a control freak and a worry wart about my kids. Trust is NOT trusting others or trusting a situation. But, it is trusting in God and trusting that you will be able to handle the worst when it happens. Fear takes hold of you b/c you think you wouldn't be able to handle something if it happened to you. But, when you know that you can handle it or lean on God for your comfort, support, and answers then you know you can and finally you can begin to trust and let go. <BR/><BR/>Great Post!Elizabeth F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02235350985228251281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-62882893585295303112007-09-29T21:13:00.000-05:002007-09-29T21:13:00.000-05:00I see such power in your art (yes it is art and I ...I see such power in your art (yes it is art and I like it). It's strong and emotional from a soft, kind heart. Letting go is the most difficult thing for me to do, and through this week I've learned I'm not alone in this lag. <BR/><BR/>Your insight as a woman AND a person of the clergy is so good to read. We tend to put our church leaders on precarious pedestals...not allow them to be human...such a mistake.<BR/><BR/>(Thank you for your prayer for me.)Wil's Wheelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13283483550243146384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807022363279638349.post-70108486088612876722007-09-29T20:52:00.000-05:002007-09-29T20:52:00.000-05:00Oh, boy, can I relate to this struggle... your art...Oh, boy, can I relate to this struggle... your art expresses it beautifully.AShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18306812116989881072noreply@blogger.com