It takes a village...

We were so lucky when our oldest was born. My husband and I were in rabbinical school and we were in a large community of students and friends.

Most of our friends were young-marrieds, singles, and almost no one had kids. We were among the first.

Definitely having a baby is hard. The first one is a total shocker. Life changes. Those first few months, that first year are a killer.

David was born in November. I wrote and handed in my thesis proposal between his birth and January. I handed in my completed rabbinic thesis three months after his first birthday.

We rarely went out at night but we had a great co-op daycare center on campus. Our weekly poker game continued, almost uninterrupted by David's birth, at our house. We put him to bed at 7pm. Poker started at 7:30. Some nights we had as many as 25 people in our house. The baby slept on upstairs, unaware.

Today someone reminded me of all that. She has her first child now, almost one year old. It's been, as it is for all of us, a rough first year. They regularly speak about us, she says, and how we made it "look easy." We should have offered to help you out more, she told me, if only we had realized how hard it really was!

And yes, it was hard. But I have to say, I can't imagine doing it any other way. I'm so glad we "hit the ground running" as my husband likes to say, by having a baby before we were out in the "real world."

We were so lucky. Our child was passed from future rabbi to future rabbi...all the time. These people are my best friends in the world, they are my family. They were the ones who visited me in the hospital as I labored. (Imagine...the hospital was next-door to our school. At lunchtime, I had a full room of friendly visitors as labor progressed....can you believe it!?) I wish we'd all had our kids together. I wish I could have held their babies in their newness. Now they're all out there, having their babies, spread all around the country. I wish I were with each one of them, sharing their experiences as they shared mine.

I love my life. But sometimes I miss my friends and their babies.
Welcome to the world, Hazel Zahara. I wish I was there to kiss your beautiful little head.

Tuesday Torah: Making Do....

Sometimes you gotta make poetry with whatever life gives you....
(or whatever you find in the kitchen drawer)

What's your Torah today?
Leave your link...

Skateboarding on the Grass....

Did you know that you can skateboard on grass? And on your belly?

That is, if you're 6 and 2 years old.



This was one of those parenting moments when I couldn't think of a good reason to say no, even though that was my gut reaction. So...I said yes. And then I went for the camera, because they had so much fun.

I feel like those moments come up the most in the summertime, when things are fun and crazy. Today, for example, we were playing with the sand and water table. It's really just a water table this summer, much less emphasis on the sand. The boys started to "spill" on each other...and then it got a little more, and a little more, and then even mama got into the act with the hose! Because I just couldn't think of a good reason to say no. Kids and clothes are washable....

What have you said yes to lately?

See some great pictures here at Mother May I...

The Wait is Over....

Haveil Havalim is up at FrumeSarah's place. It was worth waiting for!!!!

Go check it out for the best of the Jewish and Israeli Blogosphere.

Troubleshooting Tomatoes...and other questions

(I apologize in advance for the stream-of-consciousness post. I don't usually post like this but I feel the need for a brain dump. Blogland here I come!)

Have you seen this MyBlogLog? People have it all over, so I went to check it out. Now I have an account. Why do we all need so many accounts!? But I have them. How many do you have? (Ilana-Davita asked how many email addresses we have. How many "services" do you follow? I'm on flickr, del.icio.us, technorati, youtube, facebook, stumbleupon, twitter, and probably a few more that I don't even remember. What do you think is cool online?)

to my Gardening Friends (and anyone who has a good guess):
Why do my tomatoes have this dark spot under the stem on some of them

and this spotting on the leaves?

Am I in trouble here???? And when will they turn red and be edible!? The yellow plum ones are starting to turn yellow and look plummy er, yummy. And my one chili pepper is beautiful but not red yet. Wonder what it would taste like....

FrumeSarah is hosting Haveil Havalim. I'm waiting patiently for it to show up.

Did you know you can re-arrange your blog list in Google Reader? Is this a new thing? Or have I been clueless. I hated how they started out in alphabetical order but somehow got all messed up. Now I have folders. Life is good. What feed reader do you use? How many feeds do you read? I have 229 subscriptions. Luckily they don't all post every day!

I have been hard at work on the PTA newsletter. Hopefully it will be done this week and then I can show you where my creative energies have been going over the last week or so.

We are moved back into our newly renovated synagogue building. I can't quite believe it, I still wander around and I'm so happy to have all my books (which have been in storage) back with me. I missed their cute little bookie faces. Have you ever lived through a renovation? Ugh.

Do you ever go back and read your old blog posts? I was just looking for something to link to in this very random post that I'm reading. I think I need to go back and read some...and then share with you my favorite posts. I'm making a list of posts for the next few weeks. Time to get organized, serious, and into High Holy Day mode. I had better line up the blog plan...Elul, here we come! How do you get ready for the High Holy Days? Anyone else out there thinking about the first of Tishrei already?

There was a whole piece on NPR this morning (on the way to Torah Study) about the liberal blogosphere. Did you know that is a real word? I kinda thought we made it up out here in blogland. Even cooler is the J-Blogosphere, which has its own Wikipedia entry. And of course, a convention, which I can't quite get to in person. Are you going? Wait, don't answer that. I don't want to be jealous of you. Okay, answer. I want to know. Even if I'm going to be jealous.

I hope I've given you lots of interesting questions to answer! Say hi even if you don't have any answers....

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five places i've been this week (aside from all the random links above!)

love this cute bag (kippah tip to scribbit)

you can make baked potatoes in your crock-pot!? who knew.

how awesome are these muffins

pencil and paper games

might fix my tomato problem

from my del.icio.us (join my network? it's free. it's fun. who knows what you'll find!)
where have you been!?

One step back, one step forward

in this week's Torah portion...

Last week things looked up.
Daughters got a few land rights.
Joy was premature.

Mo explains vow rules.
Men must hold the vows they make.
Not the same for girls.

The vows of women
can be rendered null and void
if the men say so.

Particularly
the girl's father or husband
can nullify her.

(There's much more to this week's Torah portion. Much of it is rather troublesome. That is part of the importance of reading ALL of the Torah -- even the parts that we don't agree with, that we don't like. But it's hard to write haiku about it!)

Shabbat Shalom, y'all!

Read other Torah thoughts here.

See more Haiku Friday here.

Jewels of Elul

I'm afraid to say that I got this email about Jewels of Elul. Why am I afraid? Because it does seem that people regularly like to point out how "soon" the High Holy Days are. As if the date isn't seared into my brain. I'm a rabbi, for goodness sakes! The High Holy Days are like the World Series, the Olympics, the Jeopardy Finals, all rolled into one big spiritual package. Especially for a rabbi.

But with all that said, I do happen to love the holidays. I love the personal preparation, I love the excitement, I love the very idea that we get to start again...



It's a pretty great thing - each day someone posts their thoughts on the Hebrew month of Elul, which leads into the holidays. You can click on the above graphic to sign up for your own emails from the Jewels of Elul.

Hard to believe it's time, isn't it?

And it's not even August yet!